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Posted on 12 January 2021 | 6:30 pm

Struggling with a Storage Shed Dilemma?

Struggling with a Storage Shed Dilemma?

Have a friend or family member who has a storage shed FULL of stuff and struggling?

Know someone who is moving and has a room or storage shed which needs to be unloaded?

Scared about what you may find in a loved one’s home or storage shed? Overwhelmed by a loved one’s “stuff” and causing conflict in your life?

Know someone with more than one storage shed, who needs a wake-up call?

If you or someone you know can relate to any of the above, we want to hear from you! Click here to tell us your story.

Posted on 11 January 2021 | 7:30 pm

Open Letter To Amazon CEO Jeff Bezos From Former Staten Island Warehouse Worker Chris Smalls

Open Letter To Amazon CEO Jeff Bezos From Former Staten Island Warehouse Worker Chris Smalls

Dear Jeff Bezos,

When I applied to work at Amazon, the job description was simple. It said you need to have a high-school diploma or a GED (general educational development) and you have to be able to lift 50lbs. That’s it. Now, because of Covid-19, we’re being told that Amazon workers are “the new Red Cross”. But we don’t want to be heroes. We are regular people. I don’t have a medical degree. I wasn’t trained to be a first responder. We shouldn’t be asked to risk our lives to come into work. But we are. And someone has to be held accountable for that, and that person is you.

I have worked at Amazon for five years. Until I was fired last week from the Staten Island warehouse in New York City, I was a manager assistant who supervised a team of about 60-100 “pickers”, who pick items off the shelves and put them on conveyer belts to get sent out for shipment.

At the beginning of March, before the first confirmed case of coronavirus at the facility, I noticed people were getting sick. People had different symptoms: fatigue, light-headedness, vomiting. I told HR. I said: hey, something’s wrong here. We need to quarantine the building. I wanted us to be proactive not reactive. Management disagreed and assured me they were “following CDC guidelines”.

The lack of protections worried me. Inside the warehouse, there are gloves, but they are not the right kind. They are rubber instead of latex. There are also no masks. Hand sanitizer is scarce. There are limited cleaning supplies. People are walking around with their own personal hand sanitizer, but good luck finding one in a local grocery store.

Because of those conditions, I didn’t feel safe, so I took paid time off to stay home and avoid getting sick. Eventually, though, I ran out of paid time off and I had to go back to work. Other colleagues don’t have that option. Many of my co-workers and friends at the Amazon facility have underlying health conditions. Some have asthma or lupus or diabetes. Others are older people, or pregnant. They haven’t gone to work in a month, so they haven’t been paid. They’re only doing that to save their lives: if they get the virus they could be dead. One of my friends, who has lupus, is living with his relatives so he doesn’t have to pay rent. Can you imagine if he couldn’t do that? He’d probably be homeless.

Another problem is that Amazon has imposed mandatory overtime to keep up with the demand of everyone ordering online. The result is that Amazon employees are going to work sick as dogs just so they can earn per hour on top of their regular pay. Do you know what I call that? Blood money.

Workers who want to make extra money are doing up to 60 hours of work a week and risking their lives. Some are working even if they are sick. When people are coughing and sneezing they say, oh, it’s just allergies. It’s a scary time to be in the warehouse right now.

When I went back to work last Tuesday morning, I spoke to a team member who looked really ill. She told me she feared she had corona and had tried to get tested. I told her to go home and get some rest. Then, two hours later, we had a managers’ meeting. That’s when we were told we had a first confirmed sick employee. The crazy thing was, management told us not to tell the associates. They were being very secretive about it.

I thought the secrecy was wrong, so as soon as I left the meeting I told as many people as I could about the situation. Shortly after that, I started emailing the New York state health department, the governor, the CDC. I called the local police department. I did everything I could to close that warehouse down so that it could be properly sanitized but the government is too overwhelmed to act right now. That’s when I realized I would have to do something myself.

I believe they targeted me because the spotlight is on me. The thing is, it won’t work

I decided to start spreading awareness among the workers in the building. I had meetings in the common areas and dozens of workers joined us to talk about their concerns. People were afraid. We went to the general manager’s office to demand that the building be closed down so it could be sanitized. We also said we wanted to be paid during the duration of that time. Another demand of ours was that people who can’t go to work because of underlying health conditions be paid. Why do they have to risk catching the virus to put food on the table? This company makes trillions of dollars.

Still, our demands and concerns are falling on deaf ears. It’s crazy. They don’t care if we fall sick. Amazon thinks we are expendable.

Because Amazon was so unresponsive, I and other employees who felt the same way decided to stage a walkout and alert the media to what’s going on. On Tuesday, about 50-60 workers joined us in our walkout. A number of them spoke to the press. It was beautiful, but unfortunately, I believe it cost me my job.

On Saturday, a few days before the walkout, Amazon told me they wanted to put me on “medical quarantine” because I had interacted with someone who was sick. It made no sense because they weren’t putting other people on quarantine. I believe they targeted me because the spotlight is on me. The thing is, it won’t work. I am getting calls from Amazon workers across the country and they all want to stage walk-outs, too. We are starting a revolution and people around the country support us.

If you’re an Amazon customer, here’s how you can practice real social distancing: stop clicking the “Buy now” button. Go to the grocery store instead. You might be saving some lives.

And to Mr. Bezos, my message is simple. I don’t give a damn about your power. You think you’re powerful? We’re the ones that have the power. Without us working, what are you going to do? You’ll have no money. We have the power. We make money for you. Never forget that.



Chris Smalls

Posted on 15 April 2020 | 6:10 pm

Statement From Amazon Spokesperson Kristen Kish

Statement From Amazon Spokesperson Kristen Kish

We did not terminate Mr. Smalls employment for organizing a 15-person protest. We terminated his employment for putting the health and safety of others at risk and violations of his terms of his employment. Mr. Smalls received multiple warnings for violating social distancing guidelines. He was also found to have had close contact with a diagnosed associate with a confirmed case of COVID-19 and was asked to remain home with pay for 14-days, which is a measure we’re taking at sites around the world. Despite that instruction to stay home with pay, he came onsite further putting the teams at risk.

Posted on 15 April 2020 | 6:05 pm

Statement from Northwestern Medicine

Statement from Northwestern Medicine

Northwestern medicine is committed to the safety of our employees who are on the frontlines of this global health care crisis. While we cannot comment on the specifics of a pending lawsuit, Northwestern Medicine follows CDC guidance regarding the use of personal protective equipment for our health care providers.

Posted on 15 April 2020 | 5:45 pm

A Letter From Tricia: Identical Twin In Recovery From Serious Eating Disorder

A Letter From Tricia: Identical Twin In Recovery From Serious Eating Disorder

Dr. Phil met 16-year-old identical twins Taylor and Tricia in 2016 when they each weighed less than 80 lbs. The sisters were referred to separate treatment facilities to address their eating disorders, and as of September 2019, report having gained over 40 lbs. each.

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Taylor and Tricia came back to the Dr. Phil stage for an update on their recovery

Watch: Identical Twins Who Were Starving To Death Return!

Additionally, the twins have written letters about their recovery – and to thank Dr. Phil for his assistance in finding them help. Below is Tricia’s letter. Check here to read the letter from Taylor.

Tricia’s Letter:

Hello everyone, my name is Tricia. As some of you may already know, I am one of the twin girls that was on the episode Identical Twins Starving to Death: Who’s to Blame? in August 2016.

I’m here today at 19 years old, to share the rest of my story.

I just want to take a minute of everyone’s time today to share something I wrote and before I begin, I want to thank Dr. Phil and everyone for having me here today.

If you are reading this and are struggling, I want to let you know that there is hope. If you feel everyone is against you, and you are alone - there is hope. Hope is one of the biggest things I believe in. You are never alone in this fight. Reach out to someone, even to myself if you’d like. Reaching outlets your brain know there is still a “you.”

An eating disorder is more of a mental disorder where a voice in your head takes over. Talking to the voice only makes it weaker and the weaker it gets, the easier the day becomes. I learned this through the treatment center that Dr. Phil helped me get to.

I’m not going to sit here and lie and say it was easy. Recovery is hard. There have been days where I didn’t feel like fighting. Where I wanted to give up. Where I felt alone. But what lead me to keep fighting the fight is hope. I had to believe in myself to succeed.

Throughout my recovery, I’ve learned that recovery to me means finding yourself. It means being willing to really get to know yourself, and open up to the belief that you can actually love who you are. All of you. Even the parts that confuse you or frighten you, or that you don’t like

so much. It means the ability to let go of the person you thought you would be, or think you should be, and allow yourself to unfold into the person you truly are.

Today I learned who I am, and will continue to learn my true self. Life is truly beautiful. And it is a gift that I have it every day.

Before I end, one huge shout out to my family, and my fiancé and his family. You guys have really been my biggest motivation and I’m so thankful for each of you! I love you guys.

And finally to Taylor. Thank you for standing by my side. You have encouraged and push me to be the best version of myself. You are my biggest motivation in life. Sunny days or rainy days, you’d be there in a heartbeat. I just want to let you, and everyone reading this know, how proud I am of you!! Continue to build yourself, and I’ll guide you every step of the way. I truly believe I will never be able to thank you enough, no matter how many times I say it. I love you and your beautiful soul, tremendously.

Sincerely with love,

Tricia Rose

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Posted on 24 September 2019 | 5:31 pm

A Letter From Taylor: Identical Twin In Recovery From Serious Eating Disorder

A Letter From Taylor: Identical Twin In Recovery From Serious Eating Disorder

Dr. Phil met 16-year-old identical twins Taylor and Tricia in 2016 when they each weighed less than 80 lbs. The sisters were referred to separate treatment facilities to address their eating disorders, and as of September 2019, report having gained over 40 lbs. each.

TELL DR. PHIL YOUR STORY: Teen in crisis?

Taylor and Tricia came back to the Dr. Phil stage for an update on their recovery.

Watch: Identical Twins Who Were Starving To Death Return!

Additionally, the twins have written letters about their recovery – and to thank Dr. Phil for his assistance in finding them help. Below is Taylor’s letter. Check here to read the letter from Tricia.

Hi everyone, as many of you know my name is Taylor. This is my second time going on Dr. Phil. The first time was in August 2016, Identical Twins Starving to Death: Who’s to Blame? I highly would suggest watching that episode. It will not only give you the reason why I’m appearing back on the show, but it’ll show you how serious an eating disorder can be. I was 16 when that show was aired. Today, I am returning as a 19-year-old recovered anorexic/bulimic. Not only am I returning as recovered, but also my beautiful journey partner, Tricia is as well.

With being away from home and hospitalized made me dramatically scared. I was hopeless, I was beyond lost in my mind, lost at who I was becoming. I began my treatment in Chicago Illinois. Treatment started off very oddly to me. I kept losing weight to the point I got discharged and placed into a hospital facility that specializes with eating disorders. It was a very low feeling for me knowing that I’m only 16 years old alone in a hospital I had no idea about, in a totally different state than what home I was.

The hardest part was being away from home. All I wanted was some sort of comfort. My beautiful mother actually drove to Chicago to come give me the comfort I needed. All I needed was a hug from her and for her to let me know everything will be okay. That is what pushed me to keep going and to keep striving for what I wanted.

Later on, I returned to the treatment facility. I remember instantly crying, crying because this was the biggest change I had to ever go through. To finding my balance with food, to finding the balance in my mind to blur that voice of “Ed” (eating disorder) out, and most importantly to love the person I was becoming.

My sister and I were separated from each other for 2 months, my sister and I never experienced being away from each other longer than 2/3 days at a time. I remember girls on my lodge asking me if I was okay, and that’s when I started building a relationship with them. Being a twin is a very unique bond that I get to experience.

Recovery was also very challenging to me. It’s just like learning something new. You’re so unsure of how things are supposed to go, you’re unsure of your emotions and unsure of what to expect. I had to constantly remind myself of who I am and who I was. I had to tell myself little things like “You can do it”, “Be brave”, “Recovery is possible”, and “always believe in yourself”. I told myself I’d actually be living.

By living I mean doing things I couldn’t do when I was stuck in the position of having the disorder. I didn’t enjoy living at the age of 16. I isolated myself from the world. I didn’t want to go to school, I didn’t want to go to work (simply because I had no energy) I hardly would see friends and family. I missed out on so much opportunity throughout those years. It was the biggest thing I’ve held against myself in treatment.

Treatment was hard, full of tears, frustration, new beginnings and most importantly a new me. One thing that stuck with me throughout my recovery journey would have to be “step outside of your comfort zone” be uncomfortable, and accept it! Learn to deal with being uncomfortable and find comfort in the mind with it. Timberline Knolls not only helped me with coping skills but they helped me meet so many other girls of all ages struggling with disorders and showed me how to so positive each and every day!

Being away from Tricia was miserable for me. As soon as I got to treatment I said my goodbyes to Tricia I immediately teared up, the girls on my lodge made me feel as if I had my sister with me. These girls became sisters to me and helped me get through this stage in recovery.

After treatment I was recovered for a while, then everything started to fall backward on my end me, I went back to square one and began to relapse. I felt so hopeless, so disappointed in myself, and upset at the fact I was losing myself to this disorder again. I slowly stopped trying to get better because I knew I “failed” and my mind didn’t want to accept failure in recovery. I slowly developed that failure is okay! Failure is a part of a recovery journey. failure only meant it was a slip-up, a setback, and that it didn’t have to be forever if you kept pushing for recovery.

I remember one Saturday night, I was really thinking about my recovery and my future. I didn’t want to live like this, I knew I wanted to change again. That’s when I developed a plan, a plan to get better and to fight for recovery again. I didn’t want to live the life I was living anymore and that’s what stuck with me to get better.

A huge thank you to Dr. Phil for guiding me into the direction of recovery and a healthier lifestyle. Thank you to my amazing family and friends for tremendously believing in me and supporting me.

There is one special "thank you" I feel like I need to give. To my beautiful mother. I know you’re reading this and I never really got the chance to thank you enough for all the hard work and effort you put into my recovery journey, to reaching out to Dr. Phil and getting us to where we stand today. You have been my biggest supporter since the day you found out I struggled with this disorder.

You didn’t even think twice about giving up on me. You strived to find me the correct help that I needed. You didn’t let me fight this alone. You stood by me and made me feel strong. So, mom, I wish I could say this a million times I’m so lost at what words to even use to say thank you. Thank you from the very bottom of my heart. You are one of a kind and I can’t express how much your dedication to me means to me. I owe you more than the world and not a single bit less.

Although, I have lost tons of friends throughout my recovery journey because I needed to focus on me and put me first. That’s okay though, some people just don’t have the mindset to understand mental illness as deep as some people do. To the girls who are standing by my side today, you guys encourage me every day to keep reaching for the goals I have in mind for myself and to stay recovery-focused.

Just one last thing, I wanted to take a brief moment and congratulate my beautiful sister, Tricia. Tricia, knowing I went through this was extremely hard for me but knowing you faced the same struggles as me. It completely broke my heart; I knew from day one you would beat that demon! No matter how many slip-ups, fall downs or setbacks, I never lost hope in you. I knew you would be the strong woman you are and fight through it. Walk with your head held high and be ready for what challenges come next in life!

Today I can proudly walk across the stage and say I am beat the demon! I am a recovered anorexic/bulimic. Thank you to everyone for believing in me and to everyone who didn’t, look where I am today!

To all the young individuals struggling with something out there. Speak up! Stand up! Reach out for help, and reach for you dreams!

Sincerely,

Taylor Ann

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Posted on 24 September 2019 | 5:30 pm

Back-To-School Prep for College Students: Consider Vaccination Against Meningitis B

Back-To-School Prep for College Students: Consider Vaccination Against Meningitis B

Every summer, college students (and their parents) plan back-to-school shopping trips in anticipation of the fall semester. But somewhere between buying dorm supplies and textbooks, it’s easy to skip one of the most important stops to prepare for what’s ahead: the doctor’s office. You may have checked every box on your list, but if you haven’t scheduled a wellness visit for your teen, they may not be ready for school just yet.

Because of living in close quarters with each other and engaging in certain behaviors, such as sharing drinks and eating utensils and kissing, college students have had higher rates of meningococcal disease, an uncommon but potentially life-threatening illness also known as meningitis.

Early symptoms of meningitis may be similar to and mistaken for those of the flu, but meningitis can progress quickly and potentially be fatal, sometimes within 24 hours. One in ten people infected with meningitis will die and one in five will suffer long-term consequences, such as loss of limbs, brain damage, hearing loss and nervous system problems.

Vaccination is the best defense against meningococcal disease, although vaccination may not protect all recipients. There are two different types of meningococcal vaccines and both are needed to help protect against the five vaccine-preventable groups of meningitis – A, C, W, Y and B.

Routine vaccination against meningitis groups A, C, W and Y has been recommended for adolescents since 2005. However, there were no vaccines available to help protect against meningitis B until late 2014. If you aren’t sure whether your teen has received both types of vaccines, scheduling a wellness visit is a great way to make sure they’re up-to-date.

According to the CDC in 2017, only 14.5% of teens have received a vaccine that helps prevent meningitis B. From 2011 through March 2019, meningitis B caused all US college meningococcal outbreaks, which involved 13 campuses, 50 cases, and 2 deaths among an at-risk population of approximately 253,000 students.

To help protect your teen while they’re away at school, talk to their doctor about meningococcal vaccination and visit meningitisb.com to learn more.

Posted on 6 September 2019 | 4:30 pm

9 Things The Media Should Avoid When Reporting On Suicide

9 Things The Media Should Avoid When Reporting On Suicide

Dr. Phil says there is a need to exercise sensitivity when discussing death by suicide, so as not to glamorize the act or give rise to copycats.

When reporting about suicide, there are certain guidelines to follow. According to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, ReportingOnSuicide.org and other sources, don’t do the following:

  • Use big or sensationalistic headlines, or prominent placement
  • Include photos/videos of the location or method of death
  • Include photos/videos of the grieving family, friends, memorials, or funerals
  • Describe as inexplicable or “without warning”
  • Refer to suicide as “successful,” “unsuccessful,” or a “failed attempt”
  • Investigate/report on suicide as you would a crime, rather than health issue
  • Describe in strong terms such as "epidemic" or "skyrocketing"
  • Release the contents of any “note”, if left by the deceased
  • Use first responders instead of experts as source of the causes of suicide

If someone you know is is talking about or planning to take his or her life, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1 (800) 273-TALK (8255).

Source: ReportingOnSuicide.org

Posted on 8 May 2017 | 4:30 pm

How The Aspire News App Could Save Your Life

How The Aspire News App Could Save Your Life

Planning a safe exit from an abusive relationship is a necessary and important step before leaving your partner.

Robin McGraw, along with her foundation, When Georgia Smiled: The Robin McGraw and Dr. Phil Foundation, helped develop the Aspire News app — a free app that uses technology to assist victims in abusive situations.

“I can’t tell you how proud I am of Robin, of course, and this breakthrough in technology that can absolutely save your life the moment that abuse is occurring,” Dr. Phil says.

Watch the video above to learn about how the Aspire News app – which has been recognized on Capitol Hill for its aid in helping to end domestic violence – works and how it can save lives at the push of a button.

Download the free Aspire News app, here.

Posted on 20 May 2016 | 4:30 pm

9 Warning Signs Of An Abusive Relationship

9 Warning Signs Of An Abusive Relationship

In an abusive relationship, there are often consistent warning signs.

When Georgia Smiled: The Robin McGraw and Dr. Phil Foundation creates and advances programs that help victims of domestic violence and sexual assault live healthy, safe and joy-filled lives.

Through the foundation, Robin has created the Aspire Initiative, a free domestic violence education curriculum for tweens, teens and adults, to reduce the level of intimate relationship violence in the United States. She has also created the Aspire News App, which has been recognized on Capitol Hill and on the floor of the United Nations as one of the most meaningful apps in the fight against domestic violence.

Here is a list of nine potential warning signs you or someone you know may be involved in an abusive relationship:
 

  1. Quick involvement in a relationship
  2. Extreme jealousy
  3. Controlling behavior
  4. Threats of violence
  5. Abrupt mood changes
  6. Verbal abuse
  7. Breaking objects
  8. Use of force during an argument
  9. History of past battering

In the video above, Dr. Phil talks with Destinee and Shaila about their relationship, and whether they see any warning signs in their own behavior toward each other.

Posted on 20 April 2016 | 4:49 am

Tips for Hotel Safety

Tips for Hotel Safety

Dr. Rosemary Erickson is a security expert who teaches seminars on hotel safety for businesswomen. Here are her tips for staying safe while in hotels:

  • Tell front desk your main concern is security.
  • Never get a room on the ground floor.
  • Try to avoid rooms where balconies connect.
  • Don’t get an adjoining room.
  • Never prop your door open to go to the ice machine.
  • Always use the deadbolt and make sure windows are locked.
  • Make sure you know the person knocking on your door. If they say they work for the hotel, get their name and call the front desk and double check. Make sure there is a reason why they’re sending an electrician/housekeeper, etc., to your room.
  • Have a doorman escort you to your room at night.
  • Be mindful of long hallways or corners you can’t see around.
  • If you see someone you’re unsure of on the floor of your room, turn around and get back on the elevator — try again later. There’s something known as “push and shove:” when you insert your electronic key, an assailant then shoves you into the room and closes the door. It’s the easiest way for a rapist to get into your room.

 

Posted on 25 May 2012 | 10:30 am

10 Key Signs of Having an Addiction

10 Key Signs of Having an Addiction

10 Key Signs of Having an Addiction

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Whether it's drug use, sex or overspending, do you wonder if your behavior is crossing the line into addiction? Dr. Gary Stollman, Ph.D., is a psychotherapist who helps individuals overcome self-defeating patterns of behavior. He gives 10 key signs of having an addiction:

1) Recurrent failure (pattern) to resist impulses.


2) Frequently engaging in those behaviors to a greater extent or over a longer period of time than intended.

3) Persistent desire or unsuccessful efforts to stop, reduce or control those behaviors.

4) Inordinate amount of time spent in obtaining the object of addiction and/or engaging in or recovering from the behavior.

5) Preoccupation with the behavior or preparatory activities.

6) Frequently engaging in behavior when expected to fulfill occupational, academic, domestic or social obligations.

7) Continuation of the behavior despite knowledge of having a persistent or recurrent social, academic, financial, psychological or physical problem that is caused or exacerbated by the behavior.

8) Need to increase the intensity, frequency, number or risk of behaviors to achieve the desired effect, or diminished effect with continued behaviors at the same level of intensity, frequency, number or risk.

9) Giving up or limiting social, occupational or recreational activities because of the behavior.

10) Resorting to distress, anxiety, restlessness or violence if unable to engage in the behavior at times.

 


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Posted on 12 January 2011 | 11:30 am

Seven Steps for Making Resolutions Stick!

Seven Steps for Making Resolutions Stick!

Do you want to lose weight, stop smoking or get your toxic personality under control? Dr. Phil outlines seven steps for making your resolutions a reality!


1) Have a specific goal in mind. "If you're going to have a resolution that sticks, it has to be specific as to events and behaviors. You just can't say, 'I want to do better.' What does better mean?" Dr. Phil asks. "What are the things you truly want to focus on?"

2) Set a measurable goal.
"Don't set a goal that you can't measure, because how are you going to know how you're doing?" Dr. Phil asks. "If you say, "I want to be happier,' what does that mean? The number of smiles? You want to reduce the time you spend crying? You want to reduce the time you spend yelling and screaming?"

3) Create a timeline.
"In order for something to be a goal, instead of just a dream, you've got to say what you're going to do by when. 'I'm going to lose 12 pounds by the end of the month,'" Dr. Phil explains.

4) Make your resolution something you can control.
"You can't say, 'My resolution is to have a happier marriage.' You don't control that," Dr. Phil explains. A reasonable resolution could be: "My goal is to be a happier wife," or "I'm going to be a happier husband." The marriage may or may not get better, but you can control what you're bringing to the table.

5) Program your resolution into your lifestyle.
You will never attain your goals by using willpower alone. "Set your world up for it," Dr. Phil suggests. "People who are normal weight have a lifestyle that supports that. People who are overweight have a lifestyle that supports that." 

For example, if you want to stop overeating, remove junk food from your cabinets. If you want to get out of the fats lane, choose an alternate route home so you don't drive by the drive-thru every day. "You've got to understand this is programmed into your lifestyle," Dr. Phil stresses. 

6) Have a step-by-step plan for achieving your goals. 
If your goal is to lose a lot of weight, like Dr. Phil's guest, Jill, you may feel overwhelmed when you step on the scale. Break your goal down into manageable steps. You can start slowly by setting up a circle of support, or by recording your daily food intake in an online journal. "You take little steps; one step at a time," Dr. Phil says. Get a copy of Dr. Phil's Ultimate Weight Solution: The 7 Steps to Weight Loss Freedom to jump start your weight loss!

7) Be accountable for your behavior.
"Somebody needs to be looking over your shoulder, and it needs to cost you," Dr. Phil says. Penalize yourself every time you light up by going without washing your hair for a few days or by going outside without makeup. "You need to have a dog in the fight, so if you don't do what you're supposed to do, there is a cost," Dr. Phil warns.

Posted on 2 January 2008 | 11:30 am

Alcohol Addiction Resources

Alcohol Addiction Resources

Alcoholism is an out-of-control addiction. This year, Americans will spend more than ,000,000,000 on beer, wine and spirits. If you or someone close to you has a drinking problem, contact the following agencies:
 

Alcoholics Anonymous
https://www.aa.org/

National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence, Inc. (NCADD)
https://www.recoverymonth.gov/organizations-programs/national-council-alcoholism-drug-dependence-inc-ncadd
800-NCA-CALL, (800)-622-2255

Adult Children of Alcoholics
http://www.adultchildren.org
(310) 534-1815

Mental Help Net
http://www.mentalhelp.net

National Association for Children of Alcoholics
http://www.nacoa.org
(301) 468-0985

Focus Adolescent Services 
(877) FOCUS-AS

Vital Intervention Professionals
http://www.viprecovery.com
(888) 536-7847

A Women's Guide to Alcohol and Drug Rehabilitation
http://www.recoveryconnection.org/alcohol-drug-rehab-for-women/
(866) 386-1608
 


If you believe you need immediate assistance, please call your local emergency number or the mental health crisis hotline listed in your local phone book's government pages. Because DrPhil.com does not operate, supervise, or exercise any control over any of the therapists, resources or referral services listed, it makes no representations or warranty whatsoever, either expressed or implied, regarding any information or advice provided by these referral services. In no event shall it, Dr. Phil or the producers of the show be liable to you or anyone else for any decision made or action taken in reliance on information provided by these therapists, resources or referral services.

 


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Posted on 22 May 2006 | 10:30 am

Missing Persons Resources

Posted on 7 February 2006 | 11:30 am

Missing Persons Resources

Missing Persons Resources

The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children
http://www.missingkids.com
(800) THE-LOST or (800) 843-5678

Missing Children Society of Canada (MCSC)
http://www.mcsc.ca
Toll Free: (800) 661-6160 (403) 291-0705
Email: tips@mcsc.ca

Street Teens
A nonprofit, volunteer-based organization dedicated to helping homeless and at-risk teens. Get more information and find out how to make a donation by visiting:
http://www.streetteens.org
(702) 809-3585

FBI's list of Kidnappings and Missing Persons Investigations

Harold Copus, Investigative Solutions
E-mail: hcopus@bellsouth.net
Phone: (770) 547-0045

Posted on 7 February 2006 | 11:30 am

Child Sexual Abuse Warning Signs and Resources

Child Sexual Abuse Warning Signs and Resources

If you're worried that your child is being sexually abused, look for the following possible warning signs:
 

  • Changes in behavior: withdrawal, fearfulness, crying without provocation
  • Night sweats with screaming or shaking, and nightmares
  • Regression to more infantile behavior: bedwetting, thumb sucking
  • Loss of appetite or other eating problems
  • Poorly explained injuries: bruises, rashes, cuts, genital pain or bleeding
  • Sudden reluctance to be alone with a certain person
  •  Unusual interest in or knowledge of sexually related matters; inappropriate expression of affection

"They often won't tell you straight up that something is happening to them, because they've been threatened, they may be ashamed, or they may not want to talk to you about it," Dr. Phil says. "Think about these warning signs and ask questions. Create a dialogue if you're worried about what's going on with a child."

For more information and to learn additional warning signs, visit these websites: If you believe you need immediate assistance, please call your local emergency number or the mental health crisis hotline listed in your local phone book's government pages. Because DrPhil.com does not operate, supervise, or exercise any control over any of the therapists, resources or referral services listed, it makes no representations or warranty whatsoever, either expressed or implied, regarding any information or advice provided by these referral services. In no event shall it, Dr. Phil or the producers of the show be liable to you or anyone else for any decision made or action taken in reliance on information provided by these therapists, resources or referral services.

Childhelp USA's National Child Abuse Hotline
1-800-422-4453 (1-800-4ACHILD)
http://www.childhelp.org/

Rape Abuse & Incest National Network
1-800-656-4673 (1-800-656-HOPE)
http://www.rainn.org/

National Domestic Violence/Abuse Hotline
1-800-799-7233 (1-800-799-SAFE) 1-800-787-3224 TTY
http://www.thehotline.org/

American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry 
http://www.aacap.org

American Psychological Association
http://www.apa.org/topics/sexual-abuse/index.aspx

National Center for Missing and Exploited Children
http://www.missingkids.com/home

Medline Plus
https://medlineplus.gov/ 

National Center for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
http://www.ptsd.va.gov/index.asp


ChildLuresPrevention.com
http://www.childluresprevention.com/


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Posted on 9 November 2005 | 8:38 pm

Is Racism Part of Your Life?

Is Racism Part of Your Life?

 

 

  We often think we are open-minded and have more interactions with other races and cultures when in reality, we are limited in our experiences. Take these tests to see if racism is more a part of your life than you care to admit.

The Five Name Game

Name five people whom you know or know of from the following listed groups:
African American
Latino/Mexican
Caucasian/White
Asian
Filipino
Native American
Muslim
Jewish
Vietnamese

If you cannot name people of different groups, perhaps you tend to stay within a narrow group of friends and acquaintances. Try to reach out to other groups to really get to know them.  

The Stereotype Test
Are stereotypes embedded in your views of other races? If you can finish the following sentences, consider how stereotypes may be affecting how you think of people of other races and cultures.

People in this ethnic group do not know how to drive very well:

People in this ethnic group are really good at math:

People in this ethnic group talk really loud all the time:

People in this ethnic group tend to be lazy:

People in this ethnic group always talk in another language:

People in this ethnic group tend to be racist:

People in this ethnic group think they are better than others:

People in this ethnic group play sports and are good dancers:

People in this ethnic group speak more freely about their sexuality:

Males in this ethnic group are better lovers:

People in this ethnic group are shy and closed about their feelings: Women in this ethnic group are easy:

People in this ethnic group practice strange customs:

If you believe in all the stereotypes, you may be judging people first, rather than giving them a chance.

Posted on 22 September 2005 | 10:30 am

Steps for Succeeding as Newlyweds

Steps for Succeeding as Newlyweds

Newlyweds can expect a certain number of ups and downs during their first year of marriage. Below are some steps to take to make it through the first year of your lives together, happy and intact.  

Plan for the marriage, not just the wedding. You've probably spent many hours deciding what kind of china you want to register for, the flowers you want to use and the type of cake you want to eat, but there's more at stake than just the wedding day. If you haven't already, decide who will take which responsibilities once you are actually married. Discuss the division of labor within the marriage and around the house. Negotiate things like how you're going to spend your time. Talk about having kids. Discuss finances. Talk about long-term planning and goals and what each of you wants the other to support. Come up with a plan that you can both be excited about.  

Have reasonable expectations. Courtship and marriage are not always the same. Falling in love is not the same thing as being in love. There's an adjustment when you merge two lives together. It's give and take. Embrace the change and know that it takes work. You are both responsible for contributing to the success of the marriage.  

Create a strong foundation. Marriage is a partnership. Commit to each other and to your marriage from day one, and work on your relationship every day. Wake up every morning and ask yourself, "What can I do today to make my spouse's life better?" Deal with your spouse in a way that protects and enhances his/her self-esteem. Let your spouse know that you are proud of him/her. Instead of badgering, inspire your spouse to be the partner you want to be with. Build a partnership of love, mutual support and commitment to each other. Have balance and make time for each other. Don't be too absorbed in work or other activities that take you outside of the house. Make sure you are spending enough quality time with your spouse and family.  

Communicate at a mature level. Be honest with yourselves about what you need in your relationship. When there are problems, go back to the beginning and start over; remember the reasons you started your relationship in the first place. Talk with each other and decide how you are going to get your relationship back on track. Instead of just complaining, be specific about what it is that you want. No one's a mind reader, so don't expect your spouse to be able to figure out how you're feeling.   "You don't ever solve a relationship problem by turning away from your partner," Dr. Phil says. Turn toward each other to fix what's wrong, don't look outside the marriage. Any time you turn away from your partner to fulfill your needs instead of toward him/her, it's a betrayal. Want to know if some behavior is cheating? If you wouldn't do it with your spouse right next to you, it's cheating. If you've cheated, rebuild trust by generating a new history that is not marked with infidelity and deception. Sit down with your partner and negotiate a new plan. Discuss each of your needs in your marriage. And if you agree to something, have enough emotional integrity to stick to your promises. If you know you can't stick to it, don't agree to it.  

Learn to fight fair. The number one predictor of divorce is how you end a fight. Learn How to Fight Fair to keep your marriage healthy.  

Ask yourself: How much fun are you to live with? You either contribute to your relationship, or you contaminate it.  Go into your relationship with a spirit of acceptance, not criticism. If all you ever do is nit-pick, nag and criticize, you'll create a parent/child relationship, rather than one of love, laughter and mutual respect. People generate the results they think they deserve. If all you ever put out is negativity and pessimism, that's all you'll get in return.  

Be patient and be willing to make sacrifices. "When you grow up, you realize that you don't get to do everything you want to do whenever you want to do it. You have to make sacrifices," Dr. Phil explains. If there are financial problems, you must be willing to forgo some of the things you are used to, so that you can get out of debt and start saving for your future and the future of your children. Find happiness among yourselves and your children. Value things you can create within your lifestyle and budget.

 

Posted on 15 October 2004 | 1:30 pm

The Five Tough Questions

The Five Tough Questions

These are five very difficult questions that you need to ask yourself to see where your relationship stands. Just how dark are your feelings about your relationship, and just how negatively do you think about yourself and your partner? Under no circumstances should you share these answers with your partner. We tend to over exaggerate our negative feelings when we get in disappointing situations, and we forget to emphasize our positive feelings. But for now, lets get it all out — and into a journal. Have the courage to be honest here, even if it is scary to admit certain things through your answers. The only thing worse than having a relationship in trouble is to have a relationship in trouble and be in denial about it. As is the case with so many problems, early and appropriate intervention can be the key to the ultimate outcome.

1. Considering that at least one definition of love is that the security and well-being of your partner is as significant to you as your own security and well-being, then would you say that, based on results, you behave in a way that reflects that you are in love with your partner? Why?

2. Using that same definition, is your partner in love with you? Why?

3. Knowing what you now do about your relationship, would you still get involved with the same person if you had to do it all over again? Why?

4. When comparing yourself to other people in relationships, do you feel that you have been cheated or have settled too cheap? Why?

5. If you could break off your relationship or get a divorce from your partner right now without any inconvenience, legal costs, or embarrassment, without any undue hardship on your children (if you have any), would you do it? Why? By dealing with these issues, you've taken an important step in getting your relationship out of the ditch. By getting real about your relationship, yourself, and your partner, you have identified some dangerous and powerfully destructive forces in your life that you must now contend with. Are you in this relationship because you really want to be? Or are you in it today simply because you were in it yesterday? Spending your life with someone because it's just easier not to change is no basis for a healthy relationship — and if you feel this way, then you've got some work to do. The truth may not be easy, but it's the first, exciting step toward making that crucial U-turn that your relationship demands.

Posted on 4 May 2004 | 1:30 pm

Strength and Cardio Training with Robert Reames, Part 1

Strength and Cardio Training with Robert Reames, Part 1

By Robert Reames, CSCS, *D, RTS1, CPT All right! Now you've made the decision to begin your exercise program and master

Key #6: Intentional Exercise in The Ultimate Weight Solution. This decision is a great one. You must follow through, stick with it, make it happen and don't look back. None of the following information will benefit you without commitment, consistency and total effort. This decision will no doubt add quality years to your life. Whether you decide to join a gym or exercise at home or at work, I want to provide you with some guidelines, specific tips and a sample program. This information can help you to make the very best use of the valuable time that you invest in yourself and your weight/fat loss program.

Strength Training

Strength training, resistance training, lifting weights, is the most important mode of exercise that you can incorporate into your weight/fat loss program. Strength training builds and develops lean, precious, active, valuable fat-burning muscle! Muscle works like a brigade of fat-burning fireplaces throughout your body always on fire. By continuing to build and develop muscle you literally kick your metabolism into super power high gear. Not only do you burn more calories when you work out, but more importantly this brigade of fireplaces is working to burn fat 24/7! The more you strength train the more fireplaces ignite and the more intense existing fireplaces become. For every one pound of muscle that you gain, you will burn roughly an additional 50 calories per day " even at rest. It's like a great investment that just keeps the cash coming in around the clock. Muscle is like hiring a fleet of employees and putting them in your body to burn fat, and they never fail you. Another huge payoff is that by building muscle you increase your body's sensitivity to insulin which greatly enhances your weight loss efforts. This is major because many folks across America who are overweight are insulin resistant as well. It's a win/win situation all the way.

Here is a sample strength training program:

Warm Up:

  • 5 to 8 minutes on a cardio piece of choice or a walk around the premises.
  • 20 seconds arm circles front, 20 seconds arm circles to the back.
  • 16 high knee lifts (alternate 8 per side) *Appropriate warm up is vital to the preparation, safe application and quality of your workout.

    Strength Week #1 (all sets should consist of 12 reps)
  • 3 sets of pushing motions (chest presses)
  • 3 sets of pulling motions (i.e. row, pulldowns)
  • 2 sets of overhead presses or lateral raises (if the overhead motion is uncomfortable)
  • 3 sets of squats (leg press will also work here)
  • 3 sets of ball bridges (see Ball Training)
  • 1 set of standard reverse wood chops on each side. Use tubing or a medicine ball (see Plateau Busters)
  • 3 sets of basic abdominal crunches
  • 3 Supermans (Hold for 10 seconds each) (see Resistance Training with Tubing)
  • Cardio (piece of choice or auxiliary sport workout)
  • 2 to 3 minutes calming stretch and relaxing breathing
  • Total workout time 35 to 45 minutes

    Week #2
  • All the same. Just add one more set to the pushing, pulling and ball bridge sets.

    Week #3
  • All the same. Just do 10 reps per set and add more resistance to all exercises. Do your crunches on the ball.

    Week #4
  • Same sets, reps and weights as week three. Switch the order of the pushing and pulling motion sequence and do the squat and ball bridge series first.

    Week #5
  • Same as week 4. But go to 15 rep sets on the ball crunch. You can begin to incorporate various abdominal exercises here including but limited to vertical knee raises, planks, supine bicycles, Russian twists. Do these ONLY if you are completely comfortable with the basic abdominal crunch.

    Week #6
  • Same as week 5 in terms of the sets, reps, exercises and exercise order. Go to heavier weights and move to 8 reps per set. (With the exception of the wood chop, ball crunch and Supermans " stay at 10 reps.)

    NOTES: ** Use good sense and always be mindful not to exceed your limitations on any given day or time. If you feel pain, nausea or dizziness at any point in time, discontinue activity immediately and seek medical attention. These are your body's methods of communication. Safety is always your number one priority in any fitness endeavor. ** Individual recommendations for a total strength program will vary from individual to individual. The is not one single "perfect" workout that applies to the goals, abilities and genetic pre-disposition for all human beings across the board. Your individual progress is ever changing. However, the above illustrates a balanced, total body strength approach with the goal of comprehensively building and developing lean, working, active, fat-burning muscle. This is again why we put the focus on large muscle group, "multi-joint" movements in order to access and stimulate the maximum amount of muscle tissue per given workout. This program WILL work and is an excellent base foundation. If you are already doing resistance work then let this information enhance your present program. You will continue to progress and modify your workouts based on these guidelines and tips long after the initial six week period. Additional focus on "problem areas," weaknesses, and or parts of your body that you do not develop as quickly as others is valid and warrants additional attention. However, it's very important to keep in mind that "spot reduction" is a myth. Your muscular system works as a unit to deliver the weight/fat loss results that you strive for and WILL accomplish. So keep on strength training! page 2 -->

Posted on 15 November 2003 | 2:45 am

Worksheet: Documenting the Facts of Drug Use

Worksheet: Documenting the Facts of Drug Use

To prepare for an intervention, Dr. Phil recommends everyone bring a list of factual data over a period of time that spells out without a doubt that the person is using drugs or alcohol. Include the date, what happened, what was said and done and how it made you feel. Make sure there is no speculation, only facts.

For example: "In August, 2001, I overheard you ordering drugs over the phone. I confronted you, but you denied it and told me I was crazy. I cried myself to sleep that night. I was angry about your accusations and hurt that you wouldn't talk to me."

You can look for specific data in these areas:

Changes in pattern of use: denies use, hides supply, uses alone, increased use, can't stop using, increased tolerance, etc.

Behavior when using: becomes happy/animated/angry, becomes violent, increased arguments/fights, becomes withdrawn/silent, up all night/sleeps all day, etc.

How use is affecting: job, finances, relationships, health, responsibilities, safety, family, etc. Here is a worksheet to help you get started. 

Posted on 6 November 2003 | 2:30 pm

Making Resolutions a Reality

Making Resolutions a Reality

Whether you want to lose weight, quit smoking, get your finances in order or spend more time with your family, Dr. Phil has advice to help make your resolutions stick. Remember, winners do what losers don't want to do. Have passion, take action, and you'll get what you're after.
 

  • Set a very specific goal.
    Do you want to work out 30 minutes a day four days a week? Resolving to "be happy," for example, is not specific enough. If you want to spend more time with your family, make an appointment every week to spend time together. For example, Sunday night can become "game night." Define exactly what you want in clear terms.
     
  • Set a goal that has a measurable outcome.
    "Getting in shape" is not quantifiable. Without a goal that is measurable, how will you know when you've made progress or even reached it?
     
  • Assign a timeline.
    "Someday" is not a day of the week. The difference between a dream and a goal is a timeframe for making it happen. A deadline can also help motivate you and prevent you from procrastinating.
     
  • Choose a goal you can control.
    You don't control how much you weigh. You can influence it, and you can control the things upon which your weight is based, but you do not control the number on the scale. In identifying your goal, strive for what you can really create — not just what you fantasize about.
     
  • Program your life with a strategy.
    Willpower is a myth. It's emotionally powered, and emotions are fickle. Wanting to do something — no matter how badly you want it — won't make it happen. You need a plan and you need to change something in your lifestyle. Realistically assess the obstacles and resources involved, and create a strategy for navigating that reality. Your environment, your schedule and your accountability must be programmed in such a way that all three support you. Life is full of temptations and opportunities to fail. Without programming, you will find it much harder to stay the course.
     
  • Identify small steps.
    Major life changes don't just happen; they happen one step at a time. Keep putting one foot in front of the other. Steady progress through well-chosen, realistic, interval steps produces results. Know what those steps are before you set out.
     
  • Create accountability.
    Without accountability, people are apt to con themselves. If you know precisely what you want — and there are real consequences for not doing the assigned work — you are more likely to continue in your pursuit of your goal. Find someone in your circle of family or friends to whom you can be accountable. Make periodic reports on your progress.
     
  • Set your environment up to help you succeed.
    If you're trying to quit smoking, for example, the one thing you need to control is your environment. Set your environment up so that it does not support your habit. Don't keep cigarettes in the house. Don't buy them at all, or you're programming yourself for failure. Your lifestyle supports your habit, so you need to change your lifestyle. Yes, there is a physical addiction. But it's also a choice. Don't use the addiction as your permission slip to keep doing it. Remember that you don't break habits: You replace one behavior with a new one.
     
  • Change your lifestyle.
    If you're trying to get in shape or lose weight, for example, make sure you have a plan and start making a lifestyle change. It is difficult to be overweight without a lifestyle that supports it. Willpower will not make things change. "Gym memberships don't take weight off," says Dr. Phil. "Using them does." Do not feed loneliness with food, he suggests, and be sure to clean up your environment by getting rid of "impulse foods." You can't eat what's not there.

 


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Posted on 7 January 2003 | 12:30 am

A Good Marriage

A Good Marriage

After being happily married for more than 44 years, Dr. Phil shares some of his thoughts about what makes a marriage work:
 

  • The quality of a relationship is a function of the extent to which it is built on a solid underlying friendship and meets the needs of the two people involved.
  • You get what you give. When you give better, you get better.
  • If you put your relationship in a win/lose situation, it will be a lose/lose situation.
  • Forget whether you're right or wrong. The question is: Is what you're doing working or not working?
  • There is no right or wrong way to fix a relationship. Find your own way that works. But recognize when it's not working and be honest when it needs fixing.
  • Falling in love is not the same thing as being in love. Embrace the change and know that it takes work.
  • You don't fix things by fixing your partner.
  • Intimacy is so important because it is when we let someone else enter our private world.
  • You don't necessarily solve problems. You learn how to manage them.
  • Communicate. Make sure your sentences have verbs. Remember that only 7 percent of communication is verbal. Actions and non-verbal communication speak much louder.
  • You teach people how to treat you. You can renegotiate the rules.
     

Posted on 4 September 2002 | 2:30 am

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