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Aspire News App Relaunches With Updates

Aspire News App Relaunches With Updates

The Aspire News App could help save lives. The app allows victims of domestic violence and sexual assault to call for help at the touch of a button.  
 
“I’m thrilled to announce our Aspire News App has been updated and is now ready for download!” says Robin McGraw, Founder of When Georgia Smiled, the foundation that created the app. “We’ve added many more features, functions, and options to this updated version. For the hundreds of thousands of people who have the Aspire News App on your phone, please download the new 2019 version right away.”
 
Additionally, if someone you know is in an abusive relationship – or if that someone is you – the Help section of the application contains resources for victims of domestic violence.
 
“If you know of any person who may be in a potentially dangerous relationship, find a safe moment where you can share details of the Aspire News App with him or her,” Robin adds. “It could save your life or the life of a loved one.”
 
Learn more about the Aspire News App here, and download it on iTunes or GooglePlay.

Posted on 6 May 2019 | 3:30 pm

9 Things The Media Should Avoid When Reporting On Suicide

9 Things The Media Should Avoid When Reporting On Suicide

Dr. Phil says there is a need to exercise sensitivity when discussing death by suicide, so as not to glamorize the act or give rise to copycats.

When reporting about suicide, there are certain guidelines to follow. According to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, ReportingOnSuicide.org and other sources, don’t do the following:

  • Use big or sensationalistic headlines, or prominent placement
  • Include photos/videos of the location or method of death
  • Include photos/videos of the grieving family, friends, memorials, or funerals
  • Describe as inexplicable or “without warning”
  • Refer to suicide as “successful,” “unsuccessful,” or a “failed attempt”
  • Investigate/report on suicide as you would a crime, rather than health issue
  • Describe in strong terms such as "epidemic" or "skyrocketing"
  • Release the contents of any “note”, if left by the deceased
  • Use first responders instead of experts as source of the causes of suicide

If someone you know is is talking about or planning to take his or her life, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1 (800) 273-TALK (8255).

Source: ReportingOnSuicide.org

Posted on 8 May 2017 | 3:00 am

10 Early Signs and Symptoms To Recognize Alzheimer’s Disease

10 Early Signs and Symptoms To Recognize Alzheimer’s Disease

More than 5 million Americans are living with Alzheimer’s, a brain disease that causes a slow decline in memory, thinking and reasoning skills. It is the most common form of dementia and it’s the sixth leading cause of death in the United States.

Below are 10 warning signs and symptoms, from the Alzheimer’s Association, that may signify that you or a loved one may have Alzheimer’s disease. Individuals may experience one or more of these signs in a different degree. If you notice any of them, visit your doctor.

1. Memory Loss That Disrupts Daily Life
One of the most common signs of Alzheimer’s is memory loss, especially forgetting recently learned information.

2. Challenges in Planning or Solving Problems
Some people may experience changes in their ability to develop and follow a plan or work with numbers. For example, having difficulty following a familiar recipe or keeping track of monthly bills.

3. Difficulty Completing Familiar Tasks at Home, Work or at Leisure
People with Alzheimer’s often find it hard to complete daily tasks – driving to a familiar location, remembering the rules of a favorite game.

4. Confusion with Time or Place
People with Alzheimer’s can lose track of dates, seasons and the passage of time. They may forget where they are or how they got there.

5. Trouble Understanding Visual Images and Spatial Relationships
For some people, having vision problems is a sign of Alzheimer’s – difficulty reading, judging distance.

6. New Problems with Words in Speaking or Writing
People with Alzheimer’s may have trouble following or joining a conversation. They may stop in the middle of a conversation and have no idea how to continue, or they may repeat themselves.

7. Misplacing Things and Losing the Ability to Retrace Steps
A person with Alzheimer’s may put things in unusual places or lose things and be unable to find them.

8. Decreased or Poor Judgment
People with Alzheimer’s may experience changes in judgment or decision-making. They may pay less attention to grooming or keeping themselves clean.

9. Withdrawal from Work or Social Activities
A person with Alzheimer’s may start to remove themselves from social activities, hobbies, sports or work projects.

10. Changes in Mood or Personality
People with Alzheimer’s can become confused, suspicious, depressed, fearful or anxious.

To learn more about these signs, and the difference between Alzheimer’s and typical age-related changes, click here.
To learn about myths surrounding Alzheimer’s, click here.
To learn more about dementia, click here.
For more information about Alzheimer’s Disease, visit the Alzheimer’s Association website.
You can also call the 24-hour helpline from the Alzheimer’s Association at 1-800-272-3900.

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Posted on 1 March 2017 | 3:30 am

8 Myths About Alzheimer’s Disease

8 Myths About Alzheimer’s Disease

Alzheimer's Disease is a brain disease that causes a slow decline in memory, thinking and reasoning skills. According to the Alzheimer's Association, more than 5 million Americans are living with the disease and it’s the sixth leading cause of death in the United States. 

Below are 8 myths and realities about Alzheimer’s disease from the Alzheimer’s Association.

Myth 1: Memory loss is a natural part of aging.
Reality: As people age, it’s normal to have occasional memory problems, such as forgetting the name of a person you’ve recently met. However, Alzheimer’s is more than occasional memory loss; it’s when you forget the name of a longtime friend, or forget directions on how to get home to a place you have lived for a long time.

Myth 2: Alzheimer’s disease is not fatal.
Reality: Alzheimer’s disease has no survivors. It destroys brain cells and causes memory changes, erratic behaviors and loss of body functions.

Myth 3: Only older people can get Alzheimer’s.
Reality: While most people suffering from Alzheimer’s are 65 and older, the disease can strike people in their 30s, 40s and 50s.

Myth 4: Drinking out of aluminum cans or cooking in aluminum pots and pans can lead to Alzheimer’s disease.
Reality: During the 1960s and 1970s, aluminum emerged as a possible suspect in Alzheimer’s. Since then, studies have failed to confirm any role for aluminum in causing the disease.

Myth 5: Aspartame causes memory loss.
Reality: According to the FDA, as of May 2006, the agency had not been presented with any scientific evidence that would lead to change its conclusions on the safety of aspartame for most people.

Myth 6: Flu shots increase risk of Alzheimer’s disease.
Reality: Several mainstream studies link flu shots and other vaccinations to a reduced risk of Alzheimer's disease and overall better health.

Myth 7: Silver dental fillings increase risk of Alzheimer’s disease.
Reality: According to the best available scientific evidence, there is no relationship between silver dental fillings and Alzheimer's.

Myth 8: There are treatments available to stop the progression of Alzheimer’s disease.
Reality: At this time, there is no treatment to cure, delay or stop the progression of the disease. FDA-approved drugs can temporarily slow worsening of symptoms for about six to 12 months for about half the individuals who take them.

For more information on the myths and realities, click here.
To learn 10 Early Signs and Symptoms To Recognize Alzheimer’s Disease, click here.
To find out more about dementia, click here.
For more information about Alzheimer’s Disease, visit the Alzheimer’s Association website.
You can also call the 24-hour helpline from the Alzheimer’s Association at 1-800-272-3900.

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Posted on 1 March 2017 | 3:30 am

Enjoying the Holidays Without Gaining Weight

Enjoying the Holidays Without Gaining Weight

This year, if you follow Dr. Phil's advice, you can actually lose weight over the holidays without feeling deprived. Here are some of Dr. Phil's tips:

  • Change your attitude.Make a conscious decision to focus on the fellowship, catching up on people's lives, relaxing, and the spirit of the season ... not on the food. Don't lose sight of what the holidays are really about.
  • Plan one day at a time.Willpower won't get you far when you start soaking up the sights and sounds of the holidays.
  • Eat three meals a day and two snacks, and exercise daily.
  • Show up with a dish that you know you can eat.You don't have to tell everyone you brought a high-response cost, high-yield food as your dish!
  • Eat before you go. One of the worst mistakes you can make is to show up hungry and not have the right foods around. If you know you're headed to a target-rich environment, don't stack the odds against you.
  • Pay attention to your portions. If you've eaten three appetizers already, you should cut back on your entree.
  • Don't wear elastic pants, which allow you to overeat.
  • Position yourself away from the food.Literally, where you're standing in the room can make a huge difference in how much food you end up eating.
  • Limit your alcohol.Remember that alcohol slows your metabolism and reduces your inhibitions, which can lead to overeating.
  • Eat high-response cost foods first.That way, you'll only want a few bites of the other goodies that really aren't so good for you.
  • Make a pact with your date.Keep an eye on each other to avoid overeating.
  • Make decisions ahead of time. Plan what you're going to eat and write it down.
  • Eat sitting down, and eat slowly.
  • Take Dr. Phil with you — or the next best thing.Print out Dr. Phil's cards if you need his support when your relatives are trying to love you with food. Click here.

     

Posted on 15 December 2013 | 11:15 am

Quiz: Are You a Sitting Duck for a Bad Girl?

Quiz: Are You a Sitting Duck for a Bad Girl?

Are you an unsuspecting sitting duck for a bad girl? Take the following quiz from Dr. Carole Lieberman, author of Bad Girls, and find out! Men: For each item that describes you, circle the "Q". Feelings:

  1. You feel lonely Q
  2. You feel horny Q
  3. You feel depressed Q
  4. You feel bored Q
  5. You feel isolated Q
  6. You feel abandoned Q
  7. You have low self-esteem or a poor self-image Q
  8. You wish that people would pay more attention to you Q
  9. You feel unattractive Q
  10. You feel emasculated Q
  11. You feel shy or insecure Q
  12. You are attracted to drama Q
  13. You put on a façade of invincibility but feel like a nerd inside Q
  14. You have an unfulfilled yearning to be accepted into a cool crowd Q
  15. You have a fear of abandonment Q
  16. You are very trusting Q
  17. You feel competitive with other men and want them to think you're a bigger stud because you have a hot chick on your arm Q
  18. You feel guilty (although you may not know why) and like you deserve to be punished Q
  19. You feel inadequate as a man Q
  20. You feel unlovable Q
  21. You have attained material comforts but feel lacking in inner richness Q

Sex and Relationships:

  1. You have never had a relationship that lasted more than a few dates Q
  2. Your first love left a whole in your heart Q
  3. You have just been dumped, and you're still hurting from this break-up Q
  4. You are still in love with your ex-girlfriend or ex-wife Q
  5. You have had a string of failed relationships Q
  6. You are secretly afraid you're not good enough to hold onto a woman of your dreams Q
  7. You are looking for love but willing to accept sex as a substitute Q
  8. You get distracted by sex and pretend that it's as good as love Q
  9. Your girlfriend just left town Q
  10. Your girlfriend recently moved out of your town or city Q
  11. You haven't had sex for a while Q
  12. You have a girlfriend or wife, but she doesn't treat you the way you want to be treated and doesn't make you feel special or like a big man Q
  13. There is stress or a problem in your current relationship that you would like to escape from Q
  14. You have a desire to rescue women Q
  15. You have felt that you were madly in love with a woman, but can't explain why Q
  16. You have a mad crush on an unattainable movie star or celebrity and are attracted to women who look like her Q
  17. You are attracted to women who look like an ex-girlfriend or ex-wife who you still long for Q
  18. You attract women too easily and would like a challenge Q
  19. You are disillusioned by women and ready to give up ever finding a good woman Q
  20. You have had a dry spell and long to be back in the game Q
  21. You have performance anxiety or real sexual performance issues Q
  22. You have no time to date because you're too busy with work or other commitments Q
  23. You are longing for a family and hoping to share your woman's family Q
  24. You need reassurance that you're not the monster your ex-girlfriend or ex-wife told you you were Q
  25. You are embarrassed to ask friends or family for their opinions or advice about women you date Q
  26. You want to rebel against your parents by choosing a woman they won't like — even if it hurts you Q
  27. You don't want children Q
  28. You are in the middle of a separation or divorce Q
  29. You are a virgin Q

Current Behaviors/Situations:

  1. You sometimes smoke pot Q
  2. You sometimes use other drugs (street or prescription) Q
  3. You sometimes drink alcohol Q
  4. You sometimes go to bars Q
  5. You have an addiction to drugs or alcohol Q
  6. You recently moved to a new town or city Q
  7. You recently started a new school or job Q
  8. You are of short stature Q
  9. You are very poor or very rich Q
  10. You are very young or very old Q
  11. You lost your job or other source of income recently Q
  12. You are a ladder-climber looking for more money or higher status and would be happy to have a girlfriend give you a leg up Q
  13. You like to flirt with danger and live on the edge Q
  14. You get turned away from the hottest nightspots and want a cool-looking chick to help you get your foot in the door Q
  15. You are intrigued by the media's glamorization of bad girls Q
  16. Illness, injury or surgery is making it hard for you to take care of yourself Q
  17. You have ended up in the hospital and were asked for the names of your next of kin Q
  18. You are an artist or writer or other creative type who needs a benefactor or patron Q
  19. It is your birthday month Q
  20. You are having a mid-life crisis Q
  21. You are distracted by pressing situations in your life, such as financial issues, family matters or property repairs Q
  22. You don't lie or manipulate, so you don't know what to look out for Q

Childhood:

  1. You were adopted Q
  2. You were sexually, physically or emotionally abused Q
  3. Your parents didn't give you enough love and attention Q
  4. You grew up in a chaotic household Q
  5. Your childhood home was too boring or inhibiting of you Q
  6. As a child you liked to escape into stories of adventure or superheroes Q
  7. You were raised to be a good boy and not ask questions Q
  8. There were family secrets that everyone knew not to talk about Q
  9. You were competitive with and jealous of your sister Q
  10. You were poor or from the wrong side of the tracks Q
  11. You were picked last or next to last for sports teams Q

Parents:

  1. Your parents divorced Q
  2. Your father was not around during your childhood or was not emotionally available Q
  3. You were a "mama's boy" Q
  4. Your mother made you feel unlovable Q
  5. Your mother abandoned you Q
  6. A parent became seriously ill during your childhood or recently Q
  7. Your mother or father died during your childhood or recently Q
  8. When you were growing up, you wished you could rescue your mother from a situation that was making her unhappy or ill Q
  9. Your parents remarried during your childhood or recently Q

Scoring Instructions: 1 - 5: You are in mild danger, but not out of the woods. 6 -10: You are in moderate danger; extra caution advised. 11 - 20: You are in serious danger; psychotherapy advised. 21 or more: You are in very grave danger! Do not venture out to the dating front until you have had at least six months of psychotherapy!

Posted on 20 April 2011 | 9:00 pm

Dr. Mike's Hunger/Fullness Meter

Dr. Mike's Hunger/Fullness Meter

These days, most of us don't know when we're hungry and when we're full. We lose this ability by the time we reach kindergarten. And it's making us fat.

 

I have a solution: Dr. Mike's Hunger/Fullness Meter. The Fullness Meter is kind of like the "pain scale" doctors ask you about when you are in the hospital. Basically, you rate your hunger and fullness on a scale. This is not a new idea; there are lots of hunger scales out there. But the problem with most is that they want you to rate your hunger on a scale of 0 to 10. That's too complicated. What is the difference between a 0 or a 1, or a 9 or a 10, anyway? You'd spend so much time trying to figure out your rating that you won't have time to eat.   I say it's simpler to use a hunger rating from 1 to 2 and a fullness rating from 3 to 4. Here's how mine works.  

 

Hunger Meter

1. I'm little hungry; my stomach feels as hollow as the promises of a politician. Eat now to prevent yourself from progressing to 2. Other leading indicators of mild hunger are slight stomach growling, mild headache, shakiness and loss of concentration. If you aren't sure whether you're actually hungry, you're probably not. You may be confusing true hunger with boredom, fatigue or thirst.   2. I'm so hungry I could eat the lining of an empty Spam can. My stomach is growling so loud it scared off a junkyard dog. I've got to have something to eat, and fast. Don't let yourself get here. You'll be eating a package of Twinkies and guzzling Coke like crazy.

 
 
 
Fullness Meter
 

3. I'm starting to feel full. I will stop now so that I can save on my grocery bill. You have entered that pleasant zone where you are no longer hungry but not quite full either. Feel honorable about leaving a little room in your stomach. Try to keep yourself here at meals " never starving, never stuffed.   4. I'm so stuffed I'll have to waddle over to the couch to collapse. You have eaten too much, even if it's all on your diet. Avoid this extreme; practice more restraint. Don't feel obligated to clean your plate, either. Stop eating as soon as your stomach feels full. Those extra bites of food that you're trying not to waste add unneeded calories.   As you go through your day and manage your mealtimes, ask yourself how hungry or full you are, based on my Hunger/Fullness Meter. Your goal is to listen to your body, and let go of external cues such as the clock to tell you when, and how much, to eat.  

Dr. Mike Moreno is a physician and creator of The 17 Day Diet. Click here to purchase your copy!

Posted on 28 November 2010 | 8:00 pm

Holiday Tipping Guide

Holiday Tipping Guide

During the holidays, many people find themselves in the spirit of giving, but sometimes, who to give to and what to give can be confusing and overwhelming. And when economic times are tough, sometimes it's hard to decide who will benefit and who to erase from your gift list.   "If you can't do as much, you can at least do a thank you note, cut back on the amount you give, do a small gift from your child. Do something. The key is to say thank you," etiquette expert Peggy Post suggests. "I know this is a tough time," Dr. Phil says. "Just let them know you didn't forget them, you didn't just not care this year."   Click here to see Peggy Post's tipping guide for virtually everyone you may need to tip during the holidays.    

Posted on 13 December 2009 | 8:00 pm

Tips for Successful Negotiations

Tips for Successful Negotiations

A recent survey found that women are 2.5 times more likely to have apprehension about negotiating than men. Men said the process of negotiating is like winning a ballgame, while women said the process is like going to the dentist. Don't be intimidated by the process of deal-making! Dr. Phil and his guests offer their tips for how to do it successfully: The Principles of Negotiation: 1) Figure out what's important to the other person 2) Figure out how much you can give the other person 3) Figure out what you want and why it's important 4) Ultimatums always end negotiations 5) Never put a time limit on negotiation Tips for Buying a Car: A recent study shows that women will pay up to ,300 more on a car than a man will, because they don't negotiate. What does a woman need to know and do to come in and negotiate a reasonable deal? The King of Cars from Towbin Automotive, Chop Towbin, gives his tips: 1) Research. Know what you're buying. Look it up on the Internet, learn the Kelley Blue Book cost, research other places and come in showing that you have done your research. 2) Stay calm. Don't show too much excitement. Don't let them think they can make lots of money on you. Other tips from Chop:

  • Know that a dealership wants your money and doesn't want you to leave without a car.
  • Just because you love a car, doesn't mean you have to pay too much for it.
  • Know you have the right to negotiate, and you should be prepared to walk away if you don't feel you're getting a good deal.
  • Don't be too polite to make an aggressive offer. Men do their homework and come in ready to haggle over the price. However, men often go too low on the price and put on an act like they know everything. I would rather deal with someone who is nice and real, than someone who is out to steal money from me.
  • Don't be too honest. Women often admit they have no idea what they're looking for or what things cost.
  • Act confident. You can tell very easily when someone is nervous. Their body language is off, and you can tell they don't want to ask for a lesser price.
  • Spend time negotiating a deal. Women tend to not like the process so they give up and get stuck with a bad deal.
  • Don't be afraid to ask for a different salesperson if you are uncomfortable with the person you're with.

Five Things You Might Not Know You Can Bargain For: Wendy Keller is the author of the book Secrets of Successful Negotiating for Women. She says everything in life can be negotiated " You just have to have the guts to ask for it. She shares five things you might not know you can bargain for: 1) Discount on damaged goods at any store You can save 10 to 30 percent on items that have a flaw: a missing button or makeup smudge on clothing, a bruise on fruit or vegetables, a package that's been re-sealed, beaten up or opened. Ask the cashier, and if that doesn't work, ask the manager. 2) Expired coupons Nine times out of 10, simply asking the cashier or the manager to allow you to use the coupon will get it re-activated for you "just this once" " especially in this economy. "If it's less than two years, go in and say, ‘I'd like to have you honor this coupon,' because the store uses the coupon as an incentive to get the person in the store to buy." 3) Competitive services Dry cleaners, carpet cleaning, gardeners, dog walkers … Any company that provides services is not the only game in town. If they have two or three more local competitors, you can negotiate anything successfully. Start the negotiations with "I am going to call XYZ and ABC providers, unless you can offer me a fantastic deal right now." 4) Upgrades when traveling Simply by saying you could easily fly with another company next time, or by writing a letter to the company saying how much you like them and if they could make your next flight more enjoyable, you can get free upgrades. "When I came to the show, I went to the rental car station, waited in line for a hundred years and finally I said to the guy, ‘Can you upgrade me on this for no charge?' and he asked, ‘Well, what are you looking for?' and I picked the nicest car on the list and he upgraded me for nothing. It happens all the time but the thing is, especially women, don't realize they need to ask." 5) Any type of rent Simply by telling the landlord that you found another place that is cheaper, they often will bend for the sale. Wendy says women should use what they've got in negotiation. "We have a lot of natural assets. We've spent our whole lives learning about relationships and being sensitive to someone else, so you can watch this person. If someone is harried and stressed out, they're less likely to negotiate, but if you have to do it right then, you could step in and start with a joke: ‘Oh, my gosh, I'm so glad I'm not you, having to rebook a whole plane full of people because they got their flight cancelled.' Create a rapport. Second, an important asset that women have, they can look at them with empathy and take that empathetic position. What does that other person really want? If they're a -an-hour clerk, what they want is to go home probably. So you make their life easier by saying, ‘Let's just get to the bottom of this. Give me my money back. Let's try it.'" Wendy says the amount of money you can save over a lifetime is limitless if you use her three steps: 1) Be prepared. Know what the value is. Know that they mark up the jewelry or clothes 300 to 500 percent. 2) Be positive. Walk in positive, expecting it to go your way. 3) Be persistent. If the clerk you are dealing with is a low-level person and twice they say no, that's when you ask for a manager.  

Posted on 10 November 2009 | 8:00 pm

Top Three Ways You're Making Your Child Obese

Top Three Ways You're Making Your Child Obese

Childhood obesity is rising at an alarming rate, and statistics show that 70 percent of overweight kids will become overweight adults. Could you be unwittingly contributing to the weight gain of your little ones? Learn the top three mistakes you could be making. 1) Shaping Taste and the Environment "Kids aren't born with a preference for French fries and Twinkies. They have to learn that," Dr. Phil explains. "They acquire this taste based on what's in the environment." Show your child that it's OK to eat healthy snacks, such as apples and nuts. Your kids can't consume what isn't in the house. Now is the time to clean out your pantry and throw away processed and fatty foods. 2) Modeling If you don't exercise or eat healthy foods, chances are your children will follow in your footsteps. Start making changes right now. Make a promise to become the picture of health by eating nutritious meals and breaking a sweat at the gym. If your child understands that there is a new, dynamic shift in the household, he or she will be more willing to adapt. 3) Overfeeding and Putting Children on Diets Letting your kids eat junk food on a regular basis may make them feel good for the moment, but they could pay a high price physically and emotionally for your overindulgence. Conversely, putting your little ones on a diet is a bad idea. "Diets don't work," Dr. Phil says. You have to make lifestyle changes.

Posted on 5 November 2009 | 8:00 pm

At-Home Fitness with Robert Reames

At-Home Fitness with Robert Reames

 

Are you trying to lose weight for the new year, but don't have the time or money to go to an expensive gym? Renowned trainer and nutritionist Robert Reames offers the following tips on how you can work out right in your own home!
 

When I go into a home, a yard or an office, I see the makings of a fitness facility. The awesome news is what I see costs you nothing and is ready for you to use.

The following exercises can transform your home into a gym to help you accomplish your fitness goals:  

  • Walls. Plain wall space can be a support for exercises like wall push-ups, wall sits, wall squats or a place of support for all standing leg lift exercises.
  • Water bottles and/or soup cans. These common household items provide excellent dumbbells that you can use for various exercises. 
  • Chairs. A basic chair provides a piece of equipment for tricep chair dips, chair squats (where you use the chair as a target for your form and range of motion), support for lunges and any standing leg lifts. You can also perform a bent over rowing exercise using the chair for stability and the water bottles for weights. 
  • The floor. So many exercises can be done on the floor, including both knee and standard push-ups, crunches, "Supermans," bridges or to even use the floor as a bench for chest presses with your homemade dumbbells. You can also get to work on your favorite exercise DVDs. 
  • Stairs. Whether you use the stairs to the basement, upstairs or just a few steps that you may have in your home or backyard, stair climbing is one of the most outstanding ways to get a great cardio workout while at the same time tone and develop your entire lower body. Remember: Go quickly up the stairs, but always walk down while holding on to the banister. Indoor or outdoor steps provide a great opportunity to put on your favorite tunes and create your own step aerobics class.

These are just few great ideas to achieve fitness goals and maintain optimum health. Working out doesn't take money; it takes commitment, and it's all about making the right choices. Remember to focus on the Big Four: time efficient exercise, solid nutrition, proper rest and stress management. Maximize and balance these four aspects of life, and you'll operate at peak levels, and have optimum control over your weight and your health for a lifetime.


Robert Reames is the creator of the Robert Reames Lifestyle Transformation System, author of Make Over Your Metabolism and head trainer and nutritionist for Dr. Phil's Ultimate Weight Loss Solution.

Posted on 5 January 2009 | 8:00 pm

Bishop T.D. Jakes' Five Components to Decision-Making

Bishop T.D. Jakes' Five Components to Decision-Making

How many times have you realized you made the wrong decision, but it was too late? In his new book, Before You Do: Making Great Decisions You Won't Regret, Bishop T.D. Jakes, says there are five crucial components to making smart decisions that won't lead to a lifelong regret. 

1. Research: Gathering Information and Collecting Data
"This is not about the destination. This is about the journey; how do I get to a good decision," Bishop Jakes says. For example, Dr. Phil's guest, Bruce, should ask himself if it's fair to blame his wife for their sons' illnesses. He should also take a step back and see what he needs to do to bond with his wife. "You can never make a good decision with bad information. A lot of people make a decision based on their emotions, but you really want to bring together, not just how you feel about it, but what are the facts."

2. Roadwork: Removing Obstacles and Clearing the Path

Think about the obstacles blocking your path and figure out how to overcome them to attain what you want. "As you're going through the process of moving on with your life, you've got to clear some things out of the way," Bishop Jakes says to Bruce and his wife, Sabrina. "You've still got this 'junk in the trunk' that you've collected along the way, and you're trying to go ahead with your life, as if you have not had a crisis. As you begin to move those obstacles out of the way, you clear the path to increase your chances of reaching the destination of living happily together."

3. Rewards: Listing Choices and Imagining Their Consequences

The consequences are the rewards. "You have never had any small rewards along the way; little reprieves, some moments of happiness. They are very short-lived, and it's very, very important," Bishop Jakes tells Bruce and Sabrina. Going for long periods without satiety doesn't make for a successful relationship. "You have not had those little ah-ha moments where you begin to really celebrate each other and have some relief from this stress and pressure ...  Take the power back by saying to yourself, ‘I can't help what happened to me, but I can change how I react to what happens to me.' That gives you the power back."

4. Revelation: Narrowing Your Options and Making Selections

Pray, meditate and find a way to get a clear picture on how your decision will turn out over a lifetime. Ask yourself what success looks like for you. "The revelation is that you still have many choices that you can make that are very positive and very meaningful," Bishop Jakes explains. "You get the revelation of seeing things correctly. When you see better, you do better."

5. Rearview: Looking Back and Adjusting as Necessary to Stay on Course

When revisiting a decision, decide if your choice accomplished what you set out to do. "Looking back on the situation and putting it behind you, assessing it and getting it in perspective is very, very important, because our wisdom is accumulated from when we look back at situations, we and learn from them. That's why, hopefully, as we get older, we get wiser," Bishop Jakes says. 

 

For more information on Bishop T.D.Jakes' book, Before You Do: Making Great Decisions that You Won't Regret, click here. 
 

 

Posted on 22 September 2008 | 9:00 pm

Steps to Take if You Are Falsely Accused of Child Abuse

Steps to Take if You Are Falsely Accused of Child Abuse

"Anyone can file child abuse charges against anyone at any time, and when it happens, an investigation will ensue," Dr. Phil says. "There is a presumption that someone has done something wrong, and they're going to rule that out." If a claim is not investigated, a child may remain at risk of being hurt.

If you are falsely accused, here's how to respond:

1. Cooperate with the Authorities
They're not your enemy; they're the child's friend.

2. Get an Experienced Attorney or Legal Aid
Find someone familiar with child abuse cases. If you don't have the money for an attorney, call legal aid, explain your situation and get representation.

3. Don't Speak to Anyone but Your Attorney about the Case
Don't plead your case at church, talk with your neighbors or share your story in the community.

4. Get Media Attention
It may be appropriate to have the media spotlight, so someone is watching what's happening with your family, and your children do not get taken away and put into the foster care system without just cause.

5. You May Need to Hire a Private Investigator
 

Posted on 17 September 2008 | 9:00 pm

Sibling Rivalry Quiz

Sibling Rivalry Quiz

 

 

Did you have a close relationship with your sibling at one time, and have you drifted apart over the years? Has your once close relationship with a sibling become no relationship at all? Is a childhood rivalry coming between you and your brother or sister? To find out if your contentious relationship with your sibling is negatively affecting other areas of your life, take the quiz below created by Dr. Frank Lawlis, psychologist and chairman of the Dr. Phil Advisory Board. Answer each of these questions based on your immediate attitude and feeling. Use the following letters to indicate the corresponding reaction: (I) Intense feelings " enough to interfere with your goals in life (S) Significant emotions " enough to upset you at times but not enough to interfere with your life (A) Aware of feelings, but not upset by them (N) No emotions, whether you are aware of them or not 1. Which of you has been the smartest? ________________ How does being compared to your sibling in this area make you feel? (I) Intense (S) Significant (A) Aware (N) No emotions ______ 2. Which of you has made better grades? ________________ How does being compared to your sibling in this area make you feel? (I) Intense (S) Significant (A) Aware (N) No emotions __________ 3. Which of you has been the better athlete? ________________ How does being compared to your sibling in this area make you feel? (I) Intense (S) Significant (A) Aware (N) No emotions _________ 4. Which of you has been more popular? ________________ How does being compared to your sibling in this area make you feel? (I) Intense (S) Significant (A) Aware (N) No emotions _______ 5. Which of you has been more charming? ________________ How does being compared to your sibling in this area make you feel? (I) Intense (S) Significant (A) Aware (N) No emotions ___________ 6. Which of you has been better looking? ________________ How does being compared to your sibling in this area make you feel? Intense (S) Significant (A) Aware (N) No emotions _________ 7. Which of you has received the most honors? ________________ How does being compared to your sibling in this area make you feel? (I) Intense (S) Significant (A) Aware (N) No emotions ____________ 8. Which of you has been the luckiest? ________________ How does being compared to your sibling in this area make you feel? (I) Intense (S) Significant (A) Aware (N) No emotions _____ 9. Which of you has been the most successful? ________________ How does being compared to your sibling in this area make you feel? (I) Intense (S) Significant (A) Aware (N) No emotions 10. Which of you has had the best of everything? ______________ How does being compared to your sibling in this area make you feel? Intense (S) Significant (A) Aware (N) No emotions _____________ 11. Which of you has been Father's favorite? ________________ How does being compared to your sibling in this area make you feel? (I) Intense (S) Significant (A) Aware (N) No emotions __________ 12. Which of you has been Mother's favorite? ________________ How does being compared to your sibling in this area make you feel? (I) Intense (S) Significant (A) Aware (N) No emotions 13. Which of you has been liked the most by your family? _____________ How does being compared to your sibling in this area make you feel? (I) Intense (S) Significant (A) Aware (N) No emotions ___________ 14. Which of you has received the most praise? ______________ How does being compared to your sibling in this area make you feel? (I) Intense (S) Significant (A) Aware (N) No emotions ____________ 15. Which of you has received the most things? ______________ How does being compared to your sibling in this area make you feel? (I) Intense (S) Significant (A) Aware (N) No emotions ____________ Scoring: For each Intense response (I) give a score of 3. For each Significant (S) response, give a score of 2, and for each Aware (A) response, give a score of 1. Add all 15 items for a total score from 0 to 45, and compare your score to the range interpretations below. Sum: ________ 34 - 45: Your sibling rivalry is very intense and is probably causing some issues interfering with your long-term happiness. 24 - 33: Your sibling rivalry is strong and may be causing stress in your relationships in general or your job satisfaction. 11 - 23: Your sibling rivalry is apparent, although unlikely to be a major influence on your life in general. Your rivalry has the potential to become significant related to specific events. 0 - 10: Your sibling rivalry probably does not interfere significantly in your life.

For more advice on getting over your sibling rivalry, click here.

 

Posted on 24 August 2008 | 9:00 pm

Choosing a Plastic Surgeon

Choosing a Plastic Surgeon

If you are considering cosmetic or plastic surgery, do not overlook the importance of choosing the right physician. Consider these tips when researching your potential plastic surgeon:


1. Make sure the surgeon is board certified.

All plastic surgeons are not alike. Plastic surgeons that are certified by the American Board of Plastic Surgery (ABPS) are uniquely qualified and specially trained. They have been proven to provide the best patient care and have the lowest rates of complications.

Do not assume that all doctors who claim to be "board certified" have the same training. Be sure that your doctor is certified by the American Board of Plastic Surgery. In Canada, look for a physician who is certified by the Royal College of Physicians and Surgeons of Canada. Don't be fooled by other professional-sounding boards.

If a doctor is certified by the ABPS this means that they are certified in plastic surgery and have met the following requirements:

  • They have earned a degree from an accredited medical school
  • They have completed 3 years of general surgery
  • They have completed 2-3 years of supervised residency in plastic surgery
  • They have had at least 2 years of professional practice
  • They have passed rigorous written and oral exams (only about 70 percent of physicians who take the test pass it)

The ABPS is recognized and overseen by the American Board of Medical Specialties and sets high education and training standards. To find out if your doctor is board certified, check with the American Board of Medical Specialties.

--SmartPlasticSurgery.com

2. Check the surgeon's record.

Track down your state's medical board. You can find out more about a surgeon's record from these organizations, which record any disciplinary actions against the cosmetic surgeon. Contact the board and ask for a report. Each state treats a doctor's record a little differently. In some states you may be able to view a surgeon's records online. In other states you have to request the information through the mail. Pay close attention to any settlements or records of disciplinary action. Also make sure that your surgeon is licensed to practice medicine within the state.

--eHow.com

3. Ask if the surgeon has hospital privileges.


This is important because hospitals do background checks. If they don't have hospital privileges, that is a red flag. Dr. Phil's guest, Dr. Pearlman Hicks, says, "The hospital has balances and checks on your practice. They know what you're doing. They know that you're doing the right workups and that sort of thing. And also, if there's a complication, you have a place to take your patient. Oftentimes when you're doing surgery in an outpatient setting, there's no place to take a patient if you can't admit them to a hospital."

4. Come armed with questions for your doctor.

According to The Arizona Medical Board, some questions you should ask your plastic surgeon include:

  • How many times has the physician performed the procedure?
  • How long has the physician performed the procedure?
  • What other procedures does he/she perform?
  • Who will assist in the procedure? Their qualifications and training?
  • Are all involved licensed in good standing?
  • What is involved in the procedure? How is it performed?
  • Can I see multiple before and after photos of patients on whom you have performed this procedure?
  • Can you provide me with three to five reference patients on whom you've performed this procedure?
  • What are the exact breakdown of fees for this procedure?
  • Can I get advance copies of all forms I have to complete and sign prior to procedure?
  • Are you insured for malpractice?
  • Will the physician use sedation? If yes, what level of sedation will the physician use?
  • Who will administer and monitor the sedation?
  • How long will the procedure last?
  • How long will the sedation effects last?
  • How long will it take to recover in the facility before discharge?
  • Where will the surgery take place?
  • What are the emergency plans?
  • To which hospital would you be taken?
  • Will post-operative medicine be necessary?
  • Will there be noticeable scarring?
  • What realistic result can I expect?
  • Will the physician perform the procedure from the first cut to the last stitch?
  • What are the risks associated with this procedure?
  • What are the warning signs or concerns to watch for?
  • Do you do revisions and at what cost?

 

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Posted on 10 December 2007 | 8:00 pm

Juvenile Firesetters: When Is It Arson?

Juvenile Firesetters: When Is It Arson?

Recently some media sources have been reporting that a juvenile arsonist is allegedly responsible for one of the recent wildland fires in Los Angeles County. It is helpful to understand what arson is before making a determination of whether or not a person is an arsonist.


When a fire department responds to the scene of a fire, they have the responsibility of determining the origin and cause of the fire because every fire is a potential crime scene.


After investigating the fire, only one of three causes can be declared:

1. Incendiary
An incendiary fire is a fire which was deliberately set, that is, the intent of the firesetter was to intentionally cause harm or property loss. This is commonly referred to as an arson fire and the firesetter is commonly referred to as an arsonist. This is a crime in all 50 states.

2. Accidental
An accidental fire causes harm or loss but it was not the intent of the firesetter to cause the fire and, hence, the harm or loss. This is NOT an arson fire and the firesetter is NOT referred to as an arsonist. This is not a crime. The firesetter may be held responsible for the harmful effects of the fire, but is not prosecutable as a criminal.

3. Undetermined
If it is not possible to determine the cause of the fire, then it is listed as undetermined. This simply means that the fire investigation failed to show the cause for the fire.

In the case of the Los Angeles investigation, the child in question is only 12 years old. It has been suggested by some that the child was playing with matches and, if this is true, it would appear that the cause of the fire was accidental, not incendiary, because it was not the intent of the child to purposefully cause harm or loss. Under these circumstances the child is not an arsonist and has not committed a crime. To be sure, the child's parents or guardians may be held responsible for the effects of the fire, but not the child.


Parents should be aware that juvenile firesetting can sometimes be a problem beyond just mischievous acts by kids. However, firesetting by children differs in some fundamental ways from adult firesetting. Understanding some of the factors which underlie juvenile firesetting can help prevent firesetting behavior from becoming established and may stop more serious fires from being lit as the child grows up. Many children play with fire to some extent and most fires started by children are accidents resulting from fireplay or experimentation. A small group of children engage in problematic firesetting and a few go on to light fires regularly. Child problem firesetters are typically characterized by deeply troubled family backgrounds, often involving family breakdown where one or more parents are absent, distant or hostile. Many children who engage in firesetting have been emotionally and physically abused or neglected. Many have been sexually abused. Abusive and troubled backgrounds can lead to problems with schooling, difficulties with peer relationships and a range of antisocial behaviors, including firesetting.


Most larger fire departments have intervention programs for these child problem firesetters. Early intervention is important to resolution of the firesetting issues with these juvenile firesetters.

Steven W. Edwards, Captain
Ingalls (OK) Fire Department
Member, Dr. Phil Advisory Board

Posted on 5 November 2007 | 8:00 pm

Good Habits

Good Habits

Dr. Phil Advisory Board member Dr. Art Markman offers strategies for developing good habits:

We are all concerned about breaking bad habits. In order to break a bad habit, though, you first need to know why people have habits in the first place. Then, you can put that knowledge to good use. You can make your good habits work for you, and you can help to get rid of your bad habits.

Habits are your mind's way of taking care of the little things that you have to do every day, but you don't want to have to think about. Imagine how frustrating life would be if you had to think about all of these things every day: 

  • Where is the garbage can in the kitchen?
  • Where is the light switch in the bedroom?
  • How are the numbers arranged on a phone?
  • Which button do I press to turn on the windshield wipes in my car?

Because these things do not change very often, your habit learning system takes care of them for you. That way, you can think about more interesting things (like what you want to read on the Dr. Phil website). To see that the habit system is working, think about what happens when you do change one of these things. For example, when you move to a new home, you don't know where the switches are and where you put the garbage cans. For weeks, you have to think about how to do these simple tasks. Not too long ago, I moved to a new office. I would find myself holding a crumpled piece of paper that I wanted to throw out and thinking about garbage rather than psychology. That was no fun (and a little bit stressful).

As another example, if you borrow a friend's car or drive a rental, you may have trouble finding the control for the windshield wipers. A few years ago, I had to pull off the road in a rental car when it suddenly started pouring, and I turned on and off the headlights rather than turning on the wipers!

We also see our habit learning abilities working at the grocery store. When you are faced with the wall of tomato sauce at the supermarket, you usually just pick up the brand of tomato sauce you usually buy. That is a habit. Not only do you usually pick the same brand, but that brand is often located in about the same place on the shelf each time you go to the store. When the supermarket reorganizes the wall of tomato sauce, it makes shopping harder, because you can't rely on your habits any more. I know when the supermarket I shop at reorganizes, it always takes me 20 minutes longer to do the grocery shopping.

Most of the time, habits are good. They let us do what we want to do without having to think about it. Now that you know this about your habits, make your habit system work for you. Whenever there is something in your life you don't want to have to think about, make sure that you keep that thing set up the same way all the time. Here are a few examples.

  • Always keep your garbage cans in the same location in your kitchen, bedroom, and office, so that you don't need to think about where they are.
  • Always keep first-aid supplies and thermometers in the same place, so that you do not have to think about where they are when someone gets sick or hurt.
  • Keep the same organization of the shelves in your kitchen so that you always know where to put the groceries away when you get home from the store.
  • Teach children to organize things consistently. My sons often have trouble finding a pen or pencil, because they tend to leave them where they were last using them. If they always keep their supplies in the same place, they won't have to spend time looking for them.

Finally, here are a few steps to develop a good habit.

  1. Make a list of activities that you think about now, but you wish would become habits.
  2. Pick one that you want to make a habit. You can always work your way through this whole list later.
  3. Think about all the ways you carry out that activity now. Chances are, you are doing this activity in many different ways right now so your habit learning system has not been able to take over.
  4. Pick one way of doing this activity and make an effort (at first) to do it the same way all the time.
  5. Before you know it, this activity will become a habit.

Next: Bad Habits and Your World

 

Art Markman is one of the world's leading researchers in cognitive psychology. Cognitive psychology is the area of work that examines how people think. He has done work on the way people communicate, reason, and make decisions. He is also interested in the way that people's motivation affects the way they think. In a 20-year research career, Art has published over 100 articles, books, and chapters including a textbook on Cognitive Psychology. He is currently the editor of the professional journal Cognitive Science. When Art is not working, he's spending time with his wife and three sons. Either that, or he's playing his saxophone. For more information about Prof. Markman, check his website at http://www.psy.utexas.edu/psy/FACULTY/Markman/index.html. You can contact Art at professorart@gmail.com.


© 2007 Arthur B. Markman, All rights reserved.

 

 

 

Posted on 5 November 2007 | 8:00 pm

Are You Weight Loss Resistant?

Are You Weight Loss Resistant?

For many people, weight control has been an elusive, self-punishing struggle for which there seems to be no answer " No matter what you do, the pounds won't come off. Poor choices, bad habits, wrong thinking and emotional over-eating are often the likely culprits of weight gain, but there are certain medical issues, such as problems with individual biochemistry and metabolism, that can pack on the pounds. Of the 65 percent of the population who is overweight, there is a group of people who are weight loss resistant. If you are in this situation, know that these medical conditions are studied, and there are ways to correct them.

Use the following profile to determine if you may possibly be weight loss resistant. This profile is not meant to take the place of a thorough medical checkup by your physician; it should be used only as a first step toward identifying weight loss resistance. 

Answer the questions by checking Yes or No. Choose If you are unsure of your answer, leave it blank, but try to answer all seven questions as accurately and honestly as you can. Too many "yes" responses may mean that you are trying to hunt for excuses for being overweight, and that you would rather pin your weight problem elsewhere, because you do not have the conscious resolve to change your lifestyle and behavior.

If you truthfully answered yes to two or more of these questions, this quite possibly indicates that you are weight loss resistant. The only way to find out for sure is through thorough, extensive medical assessments and testing. Tell your doctor that you cannot lose weight, especially if you have been gaining weight or have not been able to lose weight despite a focused program of diet and exercise. It is your responsibility to supply the evidence that will steer your doctor in the right direction.

If your doctor is thorough and methodical, he or she will ask you key questions about your health when assessing you for medical problems. One of the questions may focus on medication you are taking, because there are more than 100 prescription medicines with the common side effect of weight gain. Some of these medicines include antidepressants, high blood pressure drugs, steroids, diabetic medications, hormone replacement therapy (HRT) and anti-seizure medications. Bring your doctor a list of all the prescribed and non-prescribed medications you are taking. If medications are ruled out, there may be a hormonal or metabolic problem that your doctor can determine with further testing.

If you know with certainly that you are in the category of weight loss resistance, this doesn't mean you're off the hook.  It means that you must begin to do different things in terms of your diet, your lifestyle and the medical management of your condition, to prevent your weight and your health from getting totally out of control. Finding out that you are weight loss resistant does not sentence you to a lifetime of obesity. It indicates only that your body has changed in some medically significant way. With the knowledge you have acquired through medical testing, you must now do something different in order to manage your weight. There is a remarkable power you can wield against weight loss resistance, if you are willing to work with your physician and comply with the proper treatment.

To learn more, read The Ultimate Weight Solution.

Posted on 25 April 2006 | 9:00 pm

Julie Morgenstern's Organizing from the Inside Out

Julie Morgenstern's Organizing from the Inside Out

So you've been trying for years to get organized. You've clipped magazine articles, read tons of books, and spent marathon weekends clearing out the clutter, only for the piles to return within days. Is organizing an impossible task? Are some lucky people born with the ability to organize, while everyone else is left to suffer? Absolutely not.


The fact is that organizing is a skill. In fact it's a remarkably simple skill that anyone can learn. And, no matter what you're organizing, no matter how daunting the task, or how huge the backlog, getting organized boils down to the same very simple, predictable process.


If you have resolved to get organized this year, I offer you my SPACE Formula — a 5-step process for methodically digging through the clutter. Be sure to do the steps in order, and attack one room at a time for the biggest sense of accomplishment and success.

Sort — Circle the room, pick up each item and sort onto the bed or floor by category. Group similar items just to see what you have: e.g. blouses together, pants together, suits together, etc.

Purge — Keep only what you use and love. Most people only use about 20 percent of what they own in any given category. Eliminate the excess in the following way.

  • Toss. Throw out anything that is dated, stained, torn, pilled or out of shape beyond repair.
  • Give away. Letting go of items you are no longer use is easier when you give them to a person or organization you care about.
  • Sell. Have a tag sale or sell through a consignment shop.

Assign — Give each category of items you decide to keep a home, deciding specifically which shelf, which section of the closet, or which drawer you will assign. Avoid being vague by applying the "Select 1 Rule" of giving each item a single, consistent home.

Containerize — Baskets, bins and dividers help you to maximize storage space and keep your categories of items separate. Select containers which appeal to your sense of aesthetics and décor to make it fun to put things away.

Equalize — Maintain your system with the One-In, One-Out Rule. For every new item you purchase, get rid of something old to make room for it. Place a "Giveaway" box or bag at the bottom of your closet for additional giveaways you accumulate throughout the year.

Once you have mastered the SPACE formula, you will discover organizing to be an incredibly cleansing and satisfying process — an exhilarating way of freeing yourself up to make the most of what life has to offer. You'll even consider it fun because it produces a gratifying sense of clarity, focus and accomplishment.


Here's to an organized New Year!

 

Julie Morgenstern, founder and CEO of Julie Morgenstern Enterprises, LLC, is an internationally acclaimed organizing and time management expert, corporate productivity consultant, and speaker. Since 1989 her company has provided one-on-one coaching, public and in-house seminars, corporate training and products to help individuals and businesses maximize efficiency and achieve their goals. She is the author of the New York Times bestseller Organizing From the Inside Out and Time Management from the Inside Out. She also authored a groundbreaking new book, Never Check Email in the Morning. For more information, visit her Web site at www.juliemorgenstern.com.

Posted on 1 January 2006 | 8:00 pm

Discover Your Life Chain

Discover Your Life Chain


Just think about where you were born, what family you were born into, and who you grew up around. You simply became part of a long chain -- its links consisting of your parents, your grandparents and your siblings. Consider the momentum that this chain created -- the messages and expectations that passed from one link to the next, through generations. That chain sealed much of the fate that was to be yours. You did not have the slightest choice about the links in your life chain, but you do have a choice in what you do now!

Example: You grew up with a mother and father who believed that they, and therefore you and the rest of your family, were all second-class citizens who should keep their heads down and not make waves. You probably learned to just be glad that you were even permitted into this world.

Statistics indicate that most people are tremendously confined by the life circumstance that they inherit, totally ignoring whether this is a life they would have chosen. You don't have to mindlessly go along with this life chain you have both inherited and passively contributed to. You can begin to shape its links, actively and consciously.

Answer the questions below. Write out and save your work -- you may want to review it as the Self Matters process continues.

1. Where were you born?

2. Where do you live now?

3. What do/did your mother and father do for a living?

4. What do you do for a living?

5. What were your parents' beliefs about family? Religion? Politics? Their place in the world?

6. What are your beliefs about family? Religion? Politics? Your place in the world?

7. What is your life chain?
 

Posted on 13 July 2005 | 6:07 pm

The Foundation of a Good Pregnancy

The Foundation of a Good Pregnancy

Dr. Phil outlines the keys that lay the foundation for a successful pregnancy experience and that lead into good parenting. Plus, learn the number one thing parents do that may put their child's life in jeopardy.

Key 1: Realistic Expectancies What sets people up for disappointment is when they think something is going to turn out one way, but it turns out to be another. That is why it is important to have expectancies that are realistic. The good news is, no matter what anyone tells you about pregnancy, you're about to begin the most joyous, fun, unbelievable time of your life. You're getting ready to change all of your thinking about what having a child is like and you're getting ready to have a completely different attitude. The rewards outweigh the sacrifices 1,000 to one.

Key 2: Preparation You must be as prepared as you can be for what is ahead and what you'll need to do. It is very important to include the baby's dad in the process as well. The father really needs to not be crowded out of the pregnancy and baby experience. Dads: Stake your ground and change those diapers, get involved with bonding with your child right away. Moms: He may look like a bear with boxing gloves on trying to change that diaper, but don't take over. He'll learn just like you did. And together, you can grow as a couple with the joys of the parenting process.

(Advertisement: If you’re interested in diapers for your baby, try Hello Bello, a new line of plant-based products for babies and children that are healthy – and affordable, too -- created by Kristen Bell and her husband, Dax Shepard, along with Dr. Phil’s son, Jay McGraw.)

Key 3: Patience It seems obvious, but it's extremely important to learn patience. Expectant mothers can go through many different emotions due to the hormone fluctuations and they may have difficulty dealing with the changes in their bodies. For the first time, it isn't all about you and it requires a shift in body image. Weight gain is a part of pregnancy and is needed in order to support the growing life inside your body. Research absolutely supports exercise during pregnancy, such as low impact cardio, yoga and light weight training. Women who exercise during pregnancy are much less likely to have postpartum depression, and much more likely to regain their figure and lose the weight rapidly afterward.

Key 4: A Unified Front An expectant couple should provide a unified front in the pregnancy experience. Mutual support between you and your partner can make all the difference. As you work together planning for the family addition, listen to your partner's ideas and negotiate. Things like negotiating a name for your baby can be a fun experience. The number one thing parents can do that may put their child's life in jeopardy is to not cherish the relationship with their partner. When you become a mother and father, you have to be careful to not stop being friends and lovers. It's so easy to be consumed by your child, but you have to remember that kids join our lives, we don't join theirs. Of course they are important, but don't forget to take care of the relationship that is their base of operations. Spend time as a couple and nurture your relationship so your child has a solid future ahead.

Posted on 13 July 2005 | 6:02 pm

Chemistry Test

Chemistry Test

This test, from Relationship Rescue, is designed to help you gauge how your relationship lifestyle is working. Answer the following questions about the chemistry that exists or doesn't exist between you and your partner. Don't be afraid to tell yourself the truth. As superficial as some of these items may sound, these issues can have a powerful influence on your relationship as a whole.

Click here to view and/or print the test.

More interactive quizzes:

Posted on 11 December 2003 | 11:00 am

Relationship Communication Test

Relationship Communication Test

What type of communication pattern have you and your partner developed within your relationship? This test, from Relationship Rescue, is designed to help you better understand the ways you relate, or don't relate, to your partner. These questions will also help you realize how comfortable you feel with your partner — the person who is supposed to be the most significant and trusted person in your life. This is for your eyes only, to give you a better idea of the type of communication pattern you and your partner have developed within your relationship. Click here to view and/or print the test. More interactive quizzes:
 

Posted on 10 December 2003 | 11:00 pm

Relationship Health Profile Test

Relationship Health Profile Test

This test, from Relationship Rescue, is designed to give you a quick snapshot of the health of your relationship. Answer each question as "True" or "False." Be honest and go with your first reaction. Do not spend an excessive amount of time debating any one item. Click here to take Dr. Phil's interactive quiz.

More interactive quizzes:  

 

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Posted on 7 May 2003 | 12:00 am

Potty Train Your Child In Less Than a Day

Potty Train Your Child In Less Than a Day

What You Need

  • A doll that wets
  • A potty chair
  • Big boy/girl underwear (instead of diapers)
  • Lots of liquids for your child and the doll to drink **Note that the following instructions using liquids also apply to potty training for bowel movements.

 

Consider Before You Begin

  • Development: The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests waiting until 2 years of age to potty train.
  • Modeling: You can demonstrate or have the doll demonstrate the process of "going potty."
  • Motivation: Find out who your child's superhero is. The hero will provide the motivation in this process.
  • Step 1: Teach a Doll That Wets Your child will learn by teaching the doll how to go potty. Have your child name the doll and give it something to drink. Then walk the doll to the potty chair with your child. Pull the doll's "big kid" underwear down and watch the doll go potty together.
  • Step 2: Throw the Doll a Potty Party! When the doll successfully goes potty, throw a potty party! Make it a big blowout with party hats, horns and celebrate. Give lots of attention to the doll so that your child understands that going potty is a good thing. Let your child know that when he goes potty, he will have a potty party too. Not only that, your child gets to call his favorite superhero to report the good news!
  • Step 3: Get Rid of the Diapers At the beginning of the process you placed underwear on your child's doll. Now it's time to take away the diapers and put underwear on your child.

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  • Step 4: Drink Lots of Fluids Give your child plenty of fluids to drink. The sooner he has to go potty, the sooner you can begin potty training.
  • Step 5: Ten Trips to Potty When Accident Ask your child if he needs to go potty. Your child might say no and that's OK. Because you've given your child plenty of fluids, he will soon need to go. If your child has an accident in his underwear, don't scold him. You want this to be a positive experience. Instead, take your child to the potty, pull his underwear down, and have your child sit down. Do this 10 times. This builds muscle memory and your child will eventually go.
  • Step 6: Let the Celebration Begin! When your child successfully goes potty, throw him a potty party. Most importantly, your child can now call his favorite superhero and tell the hero about what he just did! Enlist the help of a friend or relative to play the hero and take the phone call. When your child has an accident, simply take him/her to the bathroom ten times in a row as you did before. This will continue to build muscle memory. And don't forget to keep up the positive reinforcement.

Posted on 7 November 2002 | 11:00 pm

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